#3 You have the time

Pebbles on Cromer beach

One of the most quoted reasons for not taking part in social engagement is "I haven't got time". 

When I tell people about something I've done or plan to do, I often hear the question "But how do you find the time?" or simply "well, you have too much time". Others say "I'd love to help, but I haven't got the time". 

The funny thing is, you have exactly the same amount of time as I do. 

What's really happening here is that by saying that you haven't got the time, you're saying that you have different priorities. Or you're just afraid of saying no. If your cat, your TV show, your fitness club, your yoga course or your wellness weekend are taking up your time, then enjoy them, cherish them and make sure you get the most out of them. 

At Vienna Greeters, we're often asked why people would "sacrifice" their time to offer free walks to total strangers. Well, you know what, it's not a sacrifice. Every single person who takes part gains something from the walk. And if they don't, it's time to leave and go and do something else. 

And you know what else? We only get this question from outsiders like journalists. I've never heard the question raised by a member. 

In English we say things like "spend time", "give up time", "donate time", like it's a commodity.

It isn't. It's your life. What are you going to do with it?